10 peculiar things that inspire me to write…

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About anything has the capacity of inspiring one to doing what they love to do. When I get asked “What inspires you to write”, I don’t always have a ready answer because inspirations don’t just flow through a single Channel. Inspiration is everywhere! The word itself stems from a Latin phrase “inspirare” which means to inflame, to blow or to breathe into. Since we are all created in the likeness of God, and God dwells in us, God is the ultimate inspiration–and such inspiration that comes from within can only be a direct influence of God. Yet, inspiration wouldn’t always come from within as sometimes we need to wander about the universe in search for it. Generally, finding your muse in anything is a very important part of achieving success. Hence, every writer is always propelled to heave off some inspiration, somehow, anyhow, some way…..even from the weirdest sources.

Welcome to my few selection of queer (and not so) things that inspire me to write!

1) My imagination

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Imagination remains for me the greatest tool yet in drawing inspiration from. It’s the aptitude of forming a mental concept on people, objects, and places without the direct perception of the five senses. Since imagination is said to be the eye of the soul, your imaginations must run deep, in constant search of what to create. You only need just a little positive imagination to keep you stirring towards the direction of your goal. If you can imagine it, you can do it and if you can do it, you can be it!

2) My computer

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Basically, I almost cannot do without my computer since it puts me in the mood to work! whether it’s the shuffling through saved drafts, surfing the net in search of something new to read, new ideas to conceive, my “little companion” serves as yet a source of inspiration to write. You know, those long hours of blank-staring endlessly at the screen in front of me like a loner, thinking of what to write has in time become some weird kind of support system for inspiration. Hence, I’d rather not start up my system if I’m not ready to work than waste the inspiration that may come with it.

3) Fonts
How funny! But yeah, I cannot type with some fonts. I’d either crawl through the inspiration or lose it completely. Yet, some fonts trigger that inspiration; you cannot help but write, write and write more, smiling from back to back. I get this more with the slant fonts, perhaps because I write in slant too –Maybe.

4) A sharp mouthed pen
Although I would rather type than write, yet, traditionally pen to paper still weaves that inspiration for me neatly, especially when it’s a sharp-pointed pen! Some days I bury my fingers on the keyboard of my system and other days, scribbling with a sharp-pointed pen, just inspires me to write!

5) Solitude

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Yes, I love the solitude! – Because inspiration thrives in solitude. For some people, an environment with noise and clamour invigorates their writing creativity but it doesn’t always tick off that inspiration for me. There are days when even the sight of one person is enough distraction. Hence, spending that alone time in deliberate isolation from everyone, physically and mentally, helps to squeeze out my writing muse since it gives me a better chance to think, reflect, and tap better from my environment to properly develop my writing ideas.

6) Art works
Pictures generally have such mysterious way of inspiring one especially to write, perhaps, because the mind connects naturally and faster with visuals. It is one sure way of combating those annoying hiatus of writing. Being a lover of artworks has hugely inspired my writing process. I love to wander through the soul of an artwork and at the same time, try to discover what was in the mind of the artist behind the piece. Hence, I stumble on newer and better ideas that I could put to good use in writing.

7) Meaningful conversations
Ever had those moments when you find yourself locked in an insightful conversation but your mind has long travelled to the realm of creativity and your fingers start to itch to write? –Yeah, that! Holding down (meaningful) conversations with people, keeps you up to date with their lives and the lives of those around, giving you a better viewpoint about life. Conversations that inspire are definitely a sure way of spurring up some creativity!

8) The shower

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Whether it’s the singing in the shower or the quiet solitary bathes, the science behind finding one’s muse faster in the shower works like magic! It’s still for me one of the best way of exploring our inner. Most times, we do our best thinking in the shower and we just can’t explain it! Somewhere in between the soothing feel of the water trickling down our skin to the cluster of thoughts going on in the head in that peaceful moment, a brand new idea is mostly born! –And you almost cannot wait to jump out and develop this new found inspiration.

9) The Loo

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Never under-estimate the value of a good poop! Just as in a shower, we could find our muse too just by spending a good amount of reflective time alone on the toilet seat. One poop after another, the inspiration just shuffles in, somehow, you never know! You must find your muse somehow, even if it’s in a loo!

10) A good sleep

……And when you cannot write, sleep! Just shut it all off and sleep! Sleep surely does inspire insight and it is one of the habits of truly creative people. Sometimes you just cannot and should not force out that inspiration. It’s somewhere there, somewhere you can’t reach by just stretching your thinking capability. Sleeping creates a calm atmosphere that lets you reach deep within your own thought. Sometimes, a good sleep lets that inspiration flow naturally!

These are just a selected few out of a wide range because inspiration for me is everywhere! Whatever it is, whenever it is, when the inspiration hits, just seize it and begin to write and if it doesn’t come, create it. When you sit tight, waiting for the perfect muse, it most likely will never come. If you’ve searched all out for one and it doesn’t come, do more of what sparks your creativity and sooner or later, you’ll get back on track.

Where do you get your own inspiration from?

“Don’t wait for moods. You accomplish nothing if you do that. Your mind must know it has got to get down to work” –Pearl S. Buck

Written By:  ‘Nonye J. Chidolue (@NonyeWrites)

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Get Out Of Bed, Lazy Bones!

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Watch the gloomy fetters of the night,
How they slowly roll out for you
The moon and stars have taken to flight,
And darkness has made way for the light
Yet you hang up a haunch in deep snooze,
Spinning in blurred faith and anxious drools

Cock-a-doodle-doo, the early cock cries,
Tick-tock, tick-tock, the old clock fiercely warns–
Of the sudden arrival of yet another radiant light
Tweet-tweet, out of their nests, the chirping birds fly
From trees to land in search of daily g(r)ains
Yet you toss and turn in loath of the new dawn!

Get out of bed, you lazy one!–
Who idly lay in bed waiting to be kissed by the sun
Get out of bed you lazy bones!
Don’t you hear the shuttling of gates and the blaring of horns?
Stale is the night, immaculate the grandeur of the new dawn
Rise up! Carpe diem! –It’s another race to run!

QOTW: “I would have it inscribed on the curtains of your bed and the walls of your chamber: “If you do not rise early, you can make progress in nothing”– William Pitt Chatham

Written By:  ‘Nonye J. Chidolue (@NonyeWrites)

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The Obscure Portrait

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It lay in suspense in a cold open space,
The oldest sketch in memory they could make
Striking admirers from near and afar
They dropped a ransom with it to part
But none could reach the painter’s satisfaction
Smoothing with double figures for a ransom
With their bid, he remained yet unyielding

Once the show was over,
He got rid of his sketches
With good count of moneys
Ready to paint some more for sale
The old sketch lay next to him silent and pale
There was a mystery untold
Which he never revealed to a fold
Not even to his mother!

Years exceeded upon his brush,
He had a collection which drew a rush
O’er the countrysides and big cities
His sketches got rewards in meetings
And that one old frame still got no fame
Hanging in cold isolation and shame
Beautiful in its way however outlandish

When the sun went down and his back curved low,
And off his window the singing birds had far flown
To let known his merchants of his sudden ail.
From seven seas they flew and set sail
Reverencing the great artist and his creations
Rendering accolades and consolations
Something yet struck a thriving collector
“This remarkable edifice I must with me send home”!

Rewards were exchanged without more ado,
Riches swirling for purchase in tempo
The painter conserved that one painting for a reason
He saw the value in many years increasing
The abandoned frame soon kissed the lips of all
Hoarded for its worth and historical call
A little print he had for-long on it installed
“On thy preserved old, they shall extol”

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“God Makes No Mistakes!”

Written By:  ‘Nonye J. Chidolue (@NonyeWrites)

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RELATIONSHIPS: Is He A Heartbreaker Or He’s Just Not Into You?

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You know, the word “heartbreaker” has been overly used on the men to the point where you could almost envision the heartbreaker in question with a dagger. Yet, in most cases, the reverse is the case. Women happen to be their own heartbreakers. One of the necessary qualities, in my opinion, every woman should possess is the ability to know when and how to draw the line between a casual friendship and a relationship. We spend an unreasonable amount of time trying to gauge the possibilities of keeping a man or not. Hence, we get our feelings in the way of being trampled on due to our inability to recognise the obvious. The funny thing here is that most of the time, it so happens that we can see the obvious but we choose not to act because we hope that the guy would somehow learn to love us back, stick with us and then we’ll win! Hell no.

What’s the obvious anyway? – Knowing that I love this guy and he may or may not love me as much as I love him, yet he doesn’t exactly tell me so for thoughtless reasons of not wanting to hurt my feelings, but the signs are there, reminding me constantly that this is going nowhere. Hence, I resolve to comply with the signs for the sake of my own sanity.

Yes! Because heartbreaks are not easy to deal with but truth is that if we fail to pay attention to the signs, we will only end up dating all the wrong guys and breaking our own hearts. Staying in a half-baked relationship out of pity or loneliness is a really bad reason to be in one as a woman. If you even have to figure out a guy over and over again to know if they’re into you or not, it’s a sure sign that they’re not. If you’re having a hard time knowing if you own that special place in his heart, watch out for these signs! If you spot any of them to be true –He’s just not that into you!

1) He does not take you seriously.

Watch him closely– Is he paying you attention? All guys have that impulse of wanting to take care of theirs, but it only happens when they feel something for you. When a guy really loves you; flaws and all, he puts you before himself. All he thinks of daily is how to please you and constantly work towards making you happy- which includes paying attention to your needs, keeping to plans instead of making excuses, keeping specific dates about you as very important, reminding you of your own plans, encouraging and supporting you at all times, and the list goes on. When he shows this much concern towards you, it can only mean one thing, he’s really into you.

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2) Watch how he introduces you.

There are two ways to this, the second of which is even more hazardous. Firstly, his countenance is inert, pretentious or indifferent when he introduces you. Secondly, he doesn’t even bother with the introduction! For all you know, you might just be in a “self-made” fairy-tale of a relationship and you need to get out of it.

3) Watch how he relates with you in public/among his friends.

If he feels uncomfortable having you around with him in public or showing you off to his friends, then he’s not that into you! A guy who has feelings for you will by all means possible to show you off in public! On the other hand, one who’s not that into you will act in the most casual way with you in public that’s a lot different from when you’re both together alone. This also extends to the tone of voice he uses to talk to you in public. When a guy is in love with you, there’s dependably in any event, that particular and unique way he talks to you, that he doesn’t do with any other girl. This is proof of his feelings for you.

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4) Can you confide in him? (Can he confide in you?).

Every relationship should be based on trust. The reason we open up to our partners, especially about the way we feel about them is because we trust that they won’t break our hearts. And if you trust him that much to confide in him or open up about your feelings for him because you feel safe with him, that’s good! – But does he do the same? If you’re the only one who does the confiding and opening up and he on the other hand has a hard time doing the same, or appears to conceal every one of his emotions from you, that is a typical sign he’s not that into you. You just might be in that friend zone!

5) He constantly flirts with you– but with other girls too!

While flirting is said to be good between two partners in a relationship as it helps to strengthen the bond between them, yet, what every woman wants is not just the flirting but some good loving and a 100% attention. When all a guy craves is to flirt with you, then he’s just not that into you. The flirting behaviour is most often a sign to watch out for especially when done excessively and with other girls. Pay attention to how he addresses and relates with them. He flatters every other girl just as much and with the same terms he uses for you, nothing special!

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6) Who’s making the most effort?

Now if you find yourself continuously making excuses for a guy just to cover up his lapses with the hope that he’ll change, or you keep working so hard to keep the relationship down even when deep down, that little voice inside of you tells you how much of your time you’re wasting on this guy, then you must pay attention to that voice and just move on. Truth is you can’t change a grown man- they motivate themselves towards change. Though you may succeed at changing their behaviour towards you, it’s however a gradual process but you must sure as hell represent a driving force in their life to do this. Read No. 1

7) He avoids the intimate talks at all cost.

Watch how he reacts when you bring up intimate talks with him. When a guy is not that into you, it’s so simple; he doesn’t like to be in that tight corner where he has to have that heart to heart conversation with you, making endless promises and what-not. This is because he’s not interested in you and he’ll avoid anything that involves getting committed to you. He either just wants to have fun or there’s someone else. Also, pay attention to what his eyes say. They say the eyes tell no lies. Hence, it’s easy to know if a guy loves you from the way he looks at you. Watch the eye contact!

8) Have you even met his family?

This is about the most important part for guys. The part they introduce the one they truly love to their family. For some guys, this doesn’t come any sooner for fear that they just haven’t fully discovered the girl yet but when they do, they are more than excited to show her off to their folks. But is he even interested in doing that with you? If you’ve been with this guy long enough and he doesn’t see it as necessary to take you home or keeps making excuses, and even if he takes you home, he doesn’t feel comfortable having you around for long, then he just may not be into you! When a guy truly loves you, he acknowledges you to family and friends. If his behaviour tells you that he’s hiding you, you just might be in a secret relationship and you need to get out. Read No. 2

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9) He does not and will not spend on you.

When a guy is not into you, he’ll spend practically zero cash on you. Even if he does or ever did, you couldn’t count the times to your 10th finger. He’d most often make empty promises which he doesn’t hope to keep or reluctantly give in after much instigations, arguments and complaints. On the other hand, when a guy loves you , it bolsters his ego getting you stuff you love and taking you out. A guy works hard–to take care of his own, to feed his own, to make his own happy but if you’re getting none of this treatment then you just might not be his own!

10) He disrespects you.

One who loves you will never disrespect you, at least not intentionally! A guy that is not into you and sees that you’re still leeching on him will most likely end up disrespecting you– and it will feel like nothing to him! Yes, he wouldn’t be the devil by then, you’d have yourself to blame. Before it gets to this point, set your limits by knowing what not to accept from him. If he has started to manipulate you to satisfy himself especially his sexual urge, does not include you in his life, demeans your self-esteem by the way he talks to you, raises his temper rapidly at you, it’s the right time to walk out before the temper gets to the fist. It’s ridiculous begging for love and attention especially for fear of being alone and in the end accepting to be disrespected. Say NO to disrespect.

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QOTW: “This is what I know. Don’t settle for 40, 50, or even 80 percent. A relationship-it shouldn’t be too small or too tight or even a little scratchy. It shouldn’t take up space in your closet out of guilty conscience or convenience or a moment of desire. Do you hear me? It shold be perfect for you. It should be lasting. Wait. wait for 100 percent.”Deb Caletti

Written By:  ‘Nonye J. Chidolue (@NonyeWrites)

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When Death Comes A-knocking!

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When death comes A-knocking,
Like the deceitful caress of midnight’s breeze
Humming songs of pain and of ruins
Telling tales of forgotten dreams

When death comes A-knocking,
In all its hostility and spite
Raising dusts of hopelessness and vile
As gasping breaths heave out deep sighs

When death comes A-knocking,
Like pale drops of snowflakes in winter’s night
Night falls and darkness draws nigh;
Echoing voiceless sounds of anguish and strife

When death comes A-knocking,
Scribbling my name on its bed of shame
And in the loneliness of my grave,
I lay in endless silence as my flowers return to hay

When death comes A-knocking,
And darkness pierces me with its painful sting
When the hour comes from whence I must bequeath,
In all my weigh’ and measures, may I not be found wanting!

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QOTD: “And I saw the dead, great and small, standing before the throne, and books were opened. Then another book was opened, which is the book of life. And the dead were judged by what was written in the books, according to their deeds” –Revelations 20:12

Written By:  ‘Nonye J. Chidolue (@NonyeWrites)

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Consume The Sun –Let it burn!

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Consume the sun, let it burn!
Let the skies mourn the loss of its son
Let the world go dark, like a menace in return
Let the Ocean tremble like a sin atoned
Let the sleeping storms think of a detour

Consume the sun, let it burn!
Let the walls of the earth lose its grip
Let the birds in the sky go on a trip
Let the animals in the forest, themselves rip
And all the thrones be swept off its kings

Consume the sun, let it burn!
Let the trees prostrate and dance for you
Let the sailor see the break-out from a tiny view
Let holocausts fill the air like drops of morning dew
Let lovers in fear adjourn their lives in their rooms

Consume the sun, let it burn!
Let all born of a woman resort to her chest
Let both young and old seek their cradle crest
Let every dark secret, be made manifest
Let lost souls go back to their home of rest

O’ sons and daughters of the soil
Consume the sun; your fears let it destroy!
Let it ignite your being and the star in you bring
Let the tales of your might be told by the winds…
Dance to the harp as the master plays on the strings
For whatever your will, the Universe brings to peace!

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QOTW: When you really want something to happen, the whole universe conspires to help you achieve it. –Paulo Coelho

Written By:  ‘Nonye J. Chidolue (@NonyeWrites)

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How To Sound Like An Intellectual (Even if you don’t know sh*t…!)

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You’ve probably found yourself in such situation where you happen to be trapped in a conversation and cannot add anything meaningful to such conversation either because you have not been properly enlightened about it or you don’t even as far as know shit about it! And then you sit like a confused wallflower taking in everyone’s point of view because you’re not sure what to say. Well it happens, and it’s pretty normal. Even experts can know a heck of different areas of their field but they cannot know it all, unfortunately. Because we don’t want to be left out in every conversation or come off as being uninformed, we struggle to remain relevant to the discourse. But this could go wrong when not done properly. “It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.”– Mark Twain

Yet for every loop-hole, there’s a big way out! These are smart tips that can help you sound smarter than you are among genuinely smart ones.

1) Listen

Listen! You must first listen and pay good attention to the views of others and be sure to understand it before you speak. When that point of a conversation comes when you must speak and perhaps stand strongly about an issue, it ought to be carried out in the wake of listening cautiously. Thinking before speaking is not just an art but is wisdom defined too. There’s nothing more embarrassing as letting one’s mouth “ooze” and realizing that you have not even made a bit of sense. Rushing into a conversation without even having a clue what it is about is unwise, likewise jumping at the opportunity to speak first or control a discussion. It does not show how enlightened one is but only ends up making you look like a moron and the last thing you’d wish for is to be made a fool of by your own self. Before you hold up for a shot at a conversation, sit back, think about what you have to say properly, then speak!

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“He who knows not and knows not he knows not: he is a fool – shun him” –Confucius

2) Ask (smart) questions– before you get asked!

Asking questions does not only give you a chance to know more but it also engages the person/people you’re having a conversation with and takes you out of the way of being asked a question that you may have no idea of. Rather than appearing clueless, ask questions! In situations when you have nothing to add to a discussion, asking the right questions helps to save the situation. Think up something relating to what the person has said which you genuinely want to know more about, and ask! That way, you’d remain engaged and appear even smarter than you thought. New knowledge never hurts anyway, it rather advances the mind! A sound individual seeks to know more by asking questions and searching for answers consistently.

“He who knows not and knows he knows not: he is simple, teach him!” –Confucius

3) Maintain body gestures (Laugh, smile, nod) often– but courteously!

Body gesture is the strongest way of communicating. There’s no better way to draw the attention of an audience than to do so with effective body gestures. Hence, to sound intellectual, you must appear intellectual too! Now when you watch talk shows on TV, you would observe that body gestures are maintained– from the wriggling of the wrist to the head nods when in affirmation or the shaking of the head when in rebuttal. Maintain all of those body gestures with a smile, a nod or a good laugh! This would make you come off as one who is very enlightened about the topic at hand. Smiling for instance helps you calculate and fix up your words quickly before letting it out and laughing makes it appear as you know better but just not interested in contributing. Body gesture in general saves you from losing balance and confuses your opponent (if perhaps it’s an argumentative conversation) even if deep down you don’t know shit!

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4) Speak fluently

Yes. You cannot sound like an intellectual if you can’t express yourself properly with the language in which you speak. If you’re conversing in English, use words that you’re comfortable with, not words that would make you sound like a total idiot! Good vocabulary would give you more audience even when you are not making so much sense especially when using the right words and using them confidently too! For example, words like “perhaps”, “It depends”, “it is relative” “generally” would hide your lack of insight on the topic and give you a good platform of bringing in your own idea which may in the end not be so relatable, but you would have shared your own knowledge too!

5) Expand your little knowledge

Now you’ve got a chance to give your input and you have very little knowledge of it, what do you do? – Share your little knowledge, elaborate it, stress it, and say all you know about it. Chances are- they don’t even know what you know! Since you’re the speaker, keep your listener(s) engaged. However, be sure that your facts are right! When you’re proven wrong, choose instead to listen and gain more knowledge than to let out more ignorance.

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6) Take your pretty time while talking (don’t mumble-jumble)

Speaking fast does not mean making sense! When you know nothing and you jumble through your (pointless) points hoping to come off as smart, you would end up sounding silly. Never mistake your listener to be stupid because they could be better enlightened on the subject matter than you are and they would sure as hell spot your shallowness on the topic. And when you’re deliberately made to prove your points which you would most likely not have, you would surely get stuck. Again, take your pretty time to listen, ask questions and when you speak, take it slowly and calmly. Better to speak gradually and unmistakably than rapidly and ambiguously.

7) Quote people

You know, Quotes are so beautiful in that they sum-up every nonsense thing you have to say into one simple phrase, and bam! You would have made your point. Quoting people’s phrases (when they apply) makes you sound significantly cleverer than you aren’t. Applying relatable quotes when talking is a good conversational skill because it helps to spice up the conversation and makes you less of a bore and more entertaining!

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“A quotation is a handy thing to have about, saving one the trouble of thinking for oneself, always a laborious business.” –A.A. Milne.

8) Use a similar event that has happened in the past

When it gets to the point when you have exhausted the little you know about the subject, and you’re almost returning to that quiet zone, quickly steer the conversation to something that can keep you relevant to the discourse. Bringing in an event you know of that happened in the past or a similar topic which relates to the topic at hand would give the conversation a new dimension and keep you involved. Because you have ground knowledge on the subject, you can talk about it effortlessly. Be careful of changing the topic lousily however, maintain that it must relate!

9) Exit strategy

When the conversation starts to either get heated or you find yourself stuck, its super smart to know when to wrap up politely and exit yourself gracefully. The longer you stay, the more likely you are to make a fool of yourself. If you’ve tried to act and sound smart and it has or did not as much work for you, when that pause moment arises in a conversation, exit yourself yet still sounding like an intellectual. A smart way of doing so is to either buy a little into the other person’s idea but not entirely. “Well, you could be right but I thought of it the other way…….” Right after, introduce the “anyway…” and switch over to a different topic or just politely leave, commending them for the wonderful conversation.

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10) Don’t just sound like one, be one!

Because you may not be lucky enough to smartly escape an intellectual conversation next time, it doesn’t hurt to go back and get yourself more enlightened about the subject matter and more! When you broaden your knowledge about different areas by reading, surfing the net, making extensive research on different subject matters, or an area of focus that is widely talked about, it broadens your intellectual horizon and gives you a great deal of understanding and a generally framed conclusion on the issue early, so you know precisely how to present them when the topic arises. The only way to say more is to know more, and the only way to know more is to read more. Reading should not be a duty, make it a lifestyle.

 

QOTW: “What is an intellectual? In general, someone seriously devoted to what used to be called the “life of the mind”: thinking pursued not instrumentally, for the sake of practical goals, but simply for the sake of knowing and understanding.” ―Gary Gutting 

 

Written By:  ‘Nonye J. Chidolue (@NonyeWrites)

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